Hi
I strove to be a good mom and feel with my children I full filled much of that in life and All 5 of my children have a relationship with me.
But my mother was not a good mother and did nothing to make me feel excepted and loved always destroyed who I was and what I loved.
I strove to open doors of communication with her but she never healed and mended our relationship because she was always right.
I always took my 50% but she never had 50% so to that I moved away and never saw my mother again and decided that I would raise my children doing better then my Mother ever did.
She would chose between her grandchildren and that is when I made the choice she was not going to do to my children what she did to me.
I have a happy home and Love God have a wonderful Husband who helps me be a great Wife & Mother.
I by the way was raised in a so called christian home but it was so disfunctionl to everyone in it.
I believe that when your daughter or sons open truth to you about something of the passed you listen and strive to understand enough to talk about yourself in the situation and open up real conversation about the things that hurt you and she tell you about things that hurt her. Be a great listener and do not try to defend yourself, change toward there children so you do not do the same mistakes twice.
Praying you will find the Wisdom in this and the Listening and Loving ear that can change relationships. Read Illregullar people by Joyce Landorf and make sure none of your relationships run in this area at all. I checked it out and found out that 6 of the people of my family were Illregular to me and always will be. Prayer became my Friend and Forgiveness was my other Friend while I held the hand of Jesus to carry me through.
RJD Servant