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I will welcome any opinion but a guy's view would be interesting...
Last May my husband and I started having problems. It's been like a roller coaster since. In October there was a confrontation between my husband and my stepdad. Because of some things I decided to leave. I was gone for a week. I took part of our savings and held it. My husband took the other half and opened his own account. What I went back home I put the money back in our account. My husband has not closed the account and best I can tell is adding to it. He lied about a check that was mailed to him. He told me it was only $200 but I had already looked and it was quite a bit more. He doesn't know I know he lied. I know I'm being very deceptive about this because I looked in his wallet and saw the bank inquiry that showed how much was in the account. I don't understand why he thinks he needs this account. It's like he don't trust me. There's a part of me that thinks he's building this account and when he has enough he's going to leave. Because of this, I increased the deposit going into my credit union. I feel like I need to protect myself. I'm not moving money to this account, just a deposit from my check each month. I guess I feel guilty doing this too because I'm doing to him what he's doing to me. There's more going on but this bank thing is eating me alive. Any advice oh how to handle this?
Last May my husband and I started having problems. It's been like a roller coaster since. In October there was a confrontation between my husband and my stepdad. Because of some things I decided to leave. I was gone for a week. I took part of our savings and held it. My husband took the other half and opened his own account. What I went back home I put the money back in our account. My husband has not closed the account and best I can tell is adding to it. He lied about a check that was mailed to him. He told me it was only $200 but I had already looked and it was quite a bit more. He doesn't know I know he lied. I know I'm being very deceptive about this because I looked in his wallet and saw the bank inquiry that showed how much was in the account. I don't understand why he thinks he needs this account. It's like he don't trust me. There's a part of me that thinks he's building this account and when he has enough he's going to leave. Because of this, I increased the deposit going into my credit union. I feel like I need to protect myself. I'm not moving money to this account, just a deposit from my check each month. I guess I feel guilty doing this too because I'm doing to him what he's doing to me. There's more going on but this bank thing is eating me alive. Any advice oh how to handle this?