So there is this girl I really like, and she really likes me back. The only issues are that 1), she can’t date.
Oh? Why is that?
2)she says she might start liking someone else in the meantime. I don’t know how I feel about waiting.
What is dating for, exactly? What does God intend should happen between a young man and young woman when they become romantically involved? Does He intend they should just play about, dabbling in romance for no good reason, tempting themselves with the natural impulses that arise from romance? No.
Romance (aka dating) is supposed to lead to marriage. This is God's design. Are you going to marry this girl? It doesn't sound like it. So, what's the dating for? Why not just be friends and leave the romance stuff for a relationship that you expect to end in marriage?
Problem 3), today we talked again, knowing we like each other. But the conversation turned sexual, however she asked me if that was alright and I blindly said yes. I don’t know what to do, did I make the right choices?
??? This girl engaged in sexual talk with you? What does this tell you about her? Think about it: She wants to "play the field" and wants you to be okay with that. But, she starts inflaming you both with sexual talk. To what purpose? Does this girl sound like she has God's view of romance and sexuality firmly in her mind and heart, desiring to obey Him in the realm of such things? No. She sounds quite selfish, actually, and very foolish. So, get away from her! She's bad news!
Proverbs 2:16-19
16 So you will be delivered from the forbidden woman, from the adulteress with her smooth words,
17 who forsakes the companion of her youth and forgets the covenant of her God;
18 for her house sinks down to death, and her paths to the departed;
19 none who go to her come back, nor do they regain the paths of life.
Proverbs 5:3-6
3 For the lips of a forbidden woman drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil,
4 but in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword.
5 Her feet go down to death; her steps follow the path to hell;
6 she does not ponder the path of life; her ways wander, and she does not know it.
I would also point out that
you allowed the sexual talk to go on. What does this say about you? What does this reveal about where you're at with God?
Proverbs 5:22-23
22 The iniquities of the wicked ensnare him, and he is held fast in the cords of his sin.
23 He dies for lack of discipline, and because of his great folly he is led astray.
You're playing with fire. Don't complain when you get burned.
Look, God doesn't tell us to steer clear of sex outside of marriage to spoil our fun. He certainly doesn't
need any of us to obey Him; He's not affected in the slightest by our rebellion toward Him. But, man,
we sure are! Not obeying God takes us out of the protection and blessing that is in all of God's rules. And when we step out of that protection and blessing that God intends to give to us in His commandments, we step into corruption, destruction and death.
Galatians 6:7-8
7 Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap.
8 For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption...
Romans 6:23
23 For the wages of sin is death...
James 1:14-16
14 But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire.
15 Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death.
16 Do not be deceived, my beloved brothers.
So, do you want life and light, or darkness and death? When you choose to do what God has commanded you not to do - like talking dirty with some over-sexed girl - your fellowship with God "dies," it stops cold and won't begin again until you repent of your sin, confess it to God, and start walking in constant submission to Him throughout each day (
Romans 6:13-18; James 4:6-10; 1 John 1:9). And the longer you allow this deadness between you and God to go on, the harder, blinder, and deafer to God you'll grow until, one day, you'll be so far in darkness you never think of God and the sin that should horrify and disgust you has become common and boring.