Don't get me wrong, I totally agree with you that "no one has to seek marriage or have children", but why do Christians and other religious folks overwhelmingly value family over career? In theory, marriage and kids are for the secular, worldly people, Jesus taught that celibacy is a blessing (Matt. 19:12-13) and worthy disciples love him more than anybody else (Lk. 14:26); Paul taught that marriage is a distraction and status quo be maintained, we should serve the Lord as monks and nuns as "the Lord has to come first". And consider that we're living in an anti-family, anti-natalism and pro-feminism culture where kids are huge burdens, career is valued over family, divorce rate is sky high, and marriage viewed as an "oppressive patriarchal institution", there's zero incentive to go against the tide and seek marriage, and there's no teaching in the bible that encourages singles to actively seek a partner.
It's God first, then family and a job is that which provides for our family and to help further the ministry of God here on earth. Why would you not think that is the way we value the love of God who first joined man and woman together as one, Genesis 1:26-27; 2:18-25. It has nothing to do with material treasures so many love to store up for themselves here on earth or hoarding money in a bank where it would be better to used for good.
I don't know if Paul was ever married as there are only theories that he was, but Peter was married, but it did not hinder his ministry, Mark 1:30. Paul never taught that marriage is a distraction and that we should serve Him as monks and nuns. You will have to show me scripture for that. Matthew 19:1-12 is teaching about divorce, not poverty and celibacy as poverty and celibacy is not God's choice for us, but that of what mans chooses to do in their effort to be close to God. Read what Paul wrote in 1Corinthians 7:1-16 about the principles of marriage. What joy and happiness is there locking yourself away from the world when we are all called to take the Gospel of good news through out the world.
You also need to read Matthew 19:14-15 that is the full context of verses 12-13. Go look up what a eunuch is as it's one who chooses to castrate themselves or have been castrated by the hands of others and live like a monk separate from the world. Please show me in scripture where we are to live a life of poverty and celabacy as God wants to bless us with many blessings
The Sermon on the Mount is how God blesses both faithful individuals and those who are married that walk in the Spirit as their children are also blessed unto Christ Jesus. It speaks nothing about needing to be poor or never getting married.
Mat 5:1 And seeing the multitudes, he went up into a mountain: and when he was set, his disciples came unto him:
The Beatitudes
Mat 5:2 And he opened his mouth, and taught them, saying,
Mat 5:3 Blessed are the poor in spirit: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Mat 5:4 Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.
Mat 5:5 Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth.
Mat 5:6 Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled.
Mat 5:7 Blessed are the merciful: for they shall obtain mercy.
Mat 5:8 Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God.
Mat 5:9 Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.
Mat 5:10 Blessed are they which are persecuted for righteousness' sake: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Mat 5:11 Blessed are ye, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake.
Mat 5:12 Rejoice, and be exceeding glad: for great is your reward in heaven: for so persecuted they the prophets which were before you.
Salt and Light
Mat 5:13 Ye are the salt of the earth: but if the salt have lost his savour, wherewith shall it be salted? it is thenceforth good for nothing, but to be cast out, and to be trodden under foot of men.
Mat 5:14 Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on an hill cannot be hid.
Mat 5:15 Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house.
Mat 5:16 Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.