Foreverhis
Member
Hi there,
I’m new here and curious if anyone has had similar experience. Maybe you can offer some advice or just a listing ear. At the tail end of 2022, I found out my husband had a physical affair with a co worker- as well as online affairs with two other co-workers. He claims it was always just physical- not emotional. They’d send him pictures, etc.
We have been married for 13 years (12 at the time) and have four children. I made the difficult decision through a ton of prayer to stay with him. He has put in a ton of hard work to make us work again.
However, if I’m being completely honest, I struggle with resentment more than I’d like to admit. I was always trusting, understanding, giving benefits of the doubt. And now trusting him again is not coming easy. I feel like this past year has been stolen from me- as I try to heal and move forward. But it’s so hard sometimes. Even trying to give it to God and work through the pain, seems so difficult some days. Some days I’m okay- others I feel resentment bubbling up like no other. And I know it’s been a year, is it still normal to be feeling this way so far out?
Basically, I’m just asking if anyone has been there and can offer words of encouragement?
I’m new here and curious if anyone has had similar experience. Maybe you can offer some advice or just a listing ear. At the tail end of 2022, I found out my husband had a physical affair with a co worker- as well as online affairs with two other co-workers. He claims it was always just physical- not emotional. They’d send him pictures, etc.
We have been married for 13 years (12 at the time) and have four children. I made the difficult decision through a ton of prayer to stay with him. He has put in a ton of hard work to make us work again.
However, if I’m being completely honest, I struggle with resentment more than I’d like to admit. I was always trusting, understanding, giving benefits of the doubt. And now trusting him again is not coming easy. I feel like this past year has been stolen from me- as I try to heal and move forward. But it’s so hard sometimes. Even trying to give it to God and work through the pain, seems so difficult some days. Some days I’m okay- others I feel resentment bubbling up like no other. And I know it’s been a year, is it still normal to be feeling this way so far out?
Basically, I’m just asking if anyone has been there and can offer words of encouragement?