handy
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My daughter started a new school this year. She has a learning disability that has caused her to struggle academically, and last year, due to some illnesses, she got so far behind that she failed completely. We pulled her from school and homeschooled her so that she could catch up and then put her in the school she goes to now.
With good success so far. She's getting solid B's and C's with only one D and that at a 68% that she should be able to pull up to a C before the end of the quarter. So, academically she is doing well.
However...there is a family in this town that tends to think that they run everyone's business. They certainly run the church, and they try to run other things as well. The kids, two boys and a girl, have picked up on this attitude and try to run the other kids as well.
Well, my daughter isn't exactly the kind to be "run"....
Things came to a head yesterday when the eldest of the boys shot his mouth off to the Wiccan boy I mentioned in the another thread. My daughter is friends with this boy, one of the few kids who befriends him, and the other boy told the Wiccan kid in a very loud voice on the bus, "I think it's inappropriate that you're flirting with Viola." She said that this one boy, the eldest constantly picks on the Wiccan kid as well as his younger brother and a cousin of theirs. Viola more or less told the boy where he could get off, my lovely daughter can sometimes be pretty blunt. She was not only upset by the one kid butting his nose in, but also because the Wiccan kid and her were only joking around, not at all flirting. This caused the other boy and girl in the family to start in and the bus driver had to tell everyone to quiet down.
That was yesterday, and I think that things would have blown over. We used to be really good friends with this family when the kids were all much younger, and I think that they could have worked it out, except that the girl, who is in High School as are her brothers, has it in for my daughter, because my daughter is friends with a girl her in town that she doesn't like. These kids do operate on the philosophy that any friend of an enemy is an enemy of theirs as well. Did I mention that this is one of the big "Christian" families here in town? Yeah.
However, all typical school-ground stuff, and nothing that my daughter really couldn't handle herself, as she has been handling these kids for a number of years now.
The only thing is, these kids have have been going to Viola's new school for years and have a number of relations there. I guess you can say that Viola is on their turf.
This morning, one of the girls in the Junior High, who my daughter truly thought was a new and good friend told her, "Why are you such a brat on the bus? I think you need to change your attitude, what do you think? I think you need to go back where you came from, what do you think?"
And, that was the start. By the end of the day, every girl my daughter thought was a friend shut her out, and in the period right after lunch she was given a note and told, "You need to back off, Viola and stop following us." Nobody spoke to her for the rest of the day, but she saw plenty of girls whispering to each other and looking at her while all the whispering was going on.
So, now, at this school, where she is finally making some academic headway, she's been informed that she doesn't have any friends.
One of the girls wrote her a note and told her that it would be "war" if she remained friends with her. I think this girl might have been a friend, but probably is facing too much peer pressure.
Naturally, Viola doesn't want to go there any more. She woke up from a nightmare a little while ago and I just put her back to bed.
I've told her to go to school tomorrow and to just do what she normally does, and if any of her friends freeze her out, to call me and let me know.
I do have the note about it being "war" if the one girl remains friends with Viola, and the note does mention names, as well as the note that was handed to her in 5th period. I've documented everything that my daughter told me, and I will most certainly go to the school principal with it, if there continues to be a problem.
I just ask for prayer for this whole mess. I know it all sounds very juvenile, which considering that we are talking about Junior High, of course it is. But, it's very painful for my daughter as she is very used to being popular and having a lot of friends and a lot of fun. Even when she was failing in school last year, there were never any problems socially with her, she is such a friendly girl that she makes friends very easily.
With good success so far. She's getting solid B's and C's with only one D and that at a 68% that she should be able to pull up to a C before the end of the quarter. So, academically she is doing well.
However...there is a family in this town that tends to think that they run everyone's business. They certainly run the church, and they try to run other things as well. The kids, two boys and a girl, have picked up on this attitude and try to run the other kids as well.
Well, my daughter isn't exactly the kind to be "run"....
Things came to a head yesterday when the eldest of the boys shot his mouth off to the Wiccan boy I mentioned in the another thread. My daughter is friends with this boy, one of the few kids who befriends him, and the other boy told the Wiccan kid in a very loud voice on the bus, "I think it's inappropriate that you're flirting with Viola." She said that this one boy, the eldest constantly picks on the Wiccan kid as well as his younger brother and a cousin of theirs. Viola more or less told the boy where he could get off, my lovely daughter can sometimes be pretty blunt. She was not only upset by the one kid butting his nose in, but also because the Wiccan kid and her were only joking around, not at all flirting. This caused the other boy and girl in the family to start in and the bus driver had to tell everyone to quiet down.
That was yesterday, and I think that things would have blown over. We used to be really good friends with this family when the kids were all much younger, and I think that they could have worked it out, except that the girl, who is in High School as are her brothers, has it in for my daughter, because my daughter is friends with a girl her in town that she doesn't like. These kids do operate on the philosophy that any friend of an enemy is an enemy of theirs as well. Did I mention that this is one of the big "Christian" families here in town? Yeah.
However, all typical school-ground stuff, and nothing that my daughter really couldn't handle herself, as she has been handling these kids for a number of years now.
The only thing is, these kids have have been going to Viola's new school for years and have a number of relations there. I guess you can say that Viola is on their turf.
This morning, one of the girls in the Junior High, who my daughter truly thought was a new and good friend told her, "Why are you such a brat on the bus? I think you need to change your attitude, what do you think? I think you need to go back where you came from, what do you think?"
And, that was the start. By the end of the day, every girl my daughter thought was a friend shut her out, and in the period right after lunch she was given a note and told, "You need to back off, Viola and stop following us." Nobody spoke to her for the rest of the day, but she saw plenty of girls whispering to each other and looking at her while all the whispering was going on.
So, now, at this school, where she is finally making some academic headway, she's been informed that she doesn't have any friends.
One of the girls wrote her a note and told her that it would be "war" if she remained friends with her. I think this girl might have been a friend, but probably is facing too much peer pressure.
Naturally, Viola doesn't want to go there any more. She woke up from a nightmare a little while ago and I just put her back to bed.
I've told her to go to school tomorrow and to just do what she normally does, and if any of her friends freeze her out, to call me and let me know.
I do have the note about it being "war" if the one girl remains friends with Viola, and the note does mention names, as well as the note that was handed to her in 5th period. I've documented everything that my daughter told me, and I will most certainly go to the school principal with it, if there continues to be a problem.
I just ask for prayer for this whole mess. I know it all sounds very juvenile, which considering that we are talking about Junior High, of course it is. But, it's very painful for my daughter as she is very used to being popular and having a lot of friends and a lot of fun. Even when she was failing in school last year, there were never any problems socially with her, she is such a friendly girl that she makes friends very easily.