Is getting a hair transplant sinful?

[rahrah]

Okay so my question is just as the title says. Is it sinful to get a hair transplant?

I think I've had a problem with my hairline ever since I was born. All my sisters have strong healthy hairlines meanwhile mine sits high and my hair is fairly thin on the scalp, but thick and beautiful at the ends. I have quite thick hair, but on the top of my hair it's thin, kind of see through and it makes me so insecure. I've tried to fight this insecurity, but it left me feeling suicidal and I've started cutting myself a lot. It makes me hate myself, when It looks okay I just praise God and thank Him for helping me to fix it correctly. But it's really tiring and my bad thoughts are leadimg me more away from God. Some may think I'll do this for vanity, but I can clearly say that I'm not a person of pride. In fact I hate the sin pride. All glory belongs to God so It makes my skin boil to think that someone would think of themselves highly, and them only. I really want to create music for God, but I cannot think about standing on a stage in front of many people with them seeing the state of my hair because it makes me insecure. I really just want to be able to be okay with myself and put my focus on God, but this have really made it impossible to live my life.

I'm thinking about trying out rosemary oil by a brand called nature spell, and I truly hope that it will do the work. But if it won't then I'm contemplating getting a hair transplant. But as you see I have this concern that it is sinful. I don't want to sin against God. Even if my thoughts are bad, but I know that it is a sin to commit suicide so I've turned to cutting myself. I've even carved a big cross on my sternum.

I want to be set free from this problem, so I'm please asking you guys for advice. Thank you for all the answers, have a nice day. God bless you. <3

 

[rahrah]

Yes , we should forgive others , Amen !
How long has the self harm been going on and did it start before you became a Christian ?

The self harm started september last year and I got saved in 2021/became Christian then.

Have you confided with any of them your problem of self harm or maybe just asked for them to pray for your health ?

5 christian adults that I know are aware of my problem 1 are helping me, 2 of them are praying for me. The rest, I don't know.

At the monthly praise gathering is there a time of prayer offered where prayers are said on behalf of the ones who have needs in their life ?

No, there isn't.

 

[rahrah]

There may be several contributing factors as to why your hair is thin on the top of your head.

Diet is one. Do you het enough animal proteins and fats? Many doctors recommend eating your ideal body weight in grams of protein and fat, every day. Doing this (along with bone broth) has cured my hair issues in just a few months. And I continue to eat this way.

Thank yoy very much for the advice. I'l try it out. I'm having a hard time eating after I started feeling this way. I've been losing weight too. But I still take vitamin suplements. Lots of vitamin B, D and C.

Also, if you live with a lot of stress, this can overtax your adrenals and cause thinning hair. How are things in your life? Any stress, past trauma un-dealt with?

I'm not usually a stressed person, but since I'm a tenth grader, soon on college, there is a lot of homework, tests and assignments. So I don't know. I personally don't feel stressed, but maybe my body is stressed by it?

If you've had covid, that can cause thyroid issues, and thus, hair loss. That happened to me. After having covid, my thyroid swelled up, and I began losing my hair every 6 months. Changing my diet to carnivore (I eat only animal fats and proteins), my hair almost immediately began to cease falling out and it began to grow rapidly and to thicken. My skin and muscle tone improved as well.

I've had covid twice, but my hair was also like this before that.

I do not believe hair transplants are a sin. But I am concerned it might damage your scalp, when getting proper animal proteins a d fats would heal and improve the issue from the inside out. (And there is the added benefit that eating this way heals depression and other brain and hormonal issues.)

Thank you for giving me your opinion on the situation. I can try out that diet for a year and see what happens. It's just a bit hard when my family doesn't have that much money.

Have you ever struggled with suicidal ideation in the past?

I have struggled with it since I was 7, but I didn't think it would be this full blown serious. It started off with me doing something bad and my mother got really mad at me so I told her while I pointed a knife at myself "I can kill myself if that's what you want, I won't cause more problems." and she just told me to suck it up and stop being overdramatic.

So it ended up being a thing that comes and goes for me, but I really remember in year 2022 that I had a really hard time and the thoughts came back. I also started getting heart palpitations, hearing voices in my sleep and saw faces when I closed my eyes to sleep. I was unable to sleep, and got maybe 1-3 hours of sleep every single day. I also stopped breathing when I slept and that also woke me up. So I was only able to sleep if I kept myself awake until I fell asleep without knowing.

But that went away and I'm really grateful for it. I still hear voices sometimes and I still have heart palpitations, but the doctor said it wasn't something to worry about.

Then year 2023 came and it started of calm and normal until march came and I started to realise that my hair was thin. I really didn't mind it before, but it just suddenly struck me. And I thought "What if I'll never be able to change this? I'm so embarrassed that I'm always wearing a hoodie." and that's when it started to get bad.

The months passed and I was so suicidal. The summer vacation was a living battle to put on a smile for my family so that they were happy and content. I wanted to die so bad that I was scared every night because I knew that I'd be alone with my thoughts. It's like someone is following you, telling you "You're gonna die really soon, oh you're so gonna die."

Then in september that's when I started cutting myself. I started with my finger and felt like "Okay, only this time" until it became more frequent and I moved to my knee. I also took apart my sharpener so that I had a blade.

I started cutting my upper chest, close to my collar bone, but not deep enough to leave scars (yet), I then moved to my flankes/sides on my ribs, then my fingers and hand, then my ankles and the cuts left scars, then back to my upper chest and the cuts are now deep so they leave scars, even dents in my skin from how deep they were, then I moved from my flanks to my stomach, the skin is really thin there because I've lost so much weight. I'm 162 weighing 45kg. And then I continued and are still continuing to cut my stomach, flanks, knee and my upper chest.

 

[rahrah]

You are saved by grace through faith, and not by your works lest you should boast of your own goodness instead of God's goodness. No one is justified by the works of the law. We are justified through faith in Christ alone, and His finished work on the cross. When we stand before Him on judgment day we won't get into the kingdom by boasting of our works. We will get in because we are washed clean by His blood. This is the truth.

Do you remember the passage where Jesus said that there will be those who stand before Him recounting all the things they did in His name, and Jesus looks at them and says ...."Depart from me, you who work iniquity, for I never knew you." Those people placed their trust in themselves and their own works rather than in Christ and His work.

God truly loves you. He sent His Son to die for us while we were yet sinners. He knows we could never be good enough ....and He loved us anyways. That's the beauty of it. Do you see? You are FREE! You don't need to earn His love. He already loves you. All He wants in return is .....your love. Just love Him. He loved you first... just love Him back. Focus there... and out of that love, naturally, you will begin to do things that please Him. Good works will flow from a heart that knows they are loved. (Jesus said, "If you love me, keep my commandments.") Get rooted deeply in His love ... don't force it. Just be loved. Let Him love you.

I'm praying for you ...I know what it's like to live with self hatred. I'm praying God will give you a deep revelation of His love for you and that you will begin to walk and live in it every day. No more performance.

I'll try. It's just really hard because I'm used to a household where expectations are set and you'll be hated for your lack of work. You have to prove something of yourself to be good enough. That's how I think God is. I have to prove to Him that I am good enough to keep His love lasting with me. I would do anything for Him and He can punish me if He wants or when I sin. I'd want Him to cut me, to inflict pain on me because that would be justice. It is what I deserve if I do wrong.

 

[Abby-Joy]

But that went away and I'm really grateful for it. I still hear voices sometimes and I still have heart palpitations, but the doctor said it wasn't something to worry about.

Can you describe the voices, what they say, etc? (Hearing voices is not always a sign of mental illness or chemical imbalance.) Is this something you feel comfortable talking about here? If not, please feel free to PM me.

 

[Abby-Joy]

I'll try. It's just really hard because I'm used to a household where expectations are set and you'll be hated for your lack of work. You have to prove something of yourself to be good enough. That's how I think God is.

I was in a church group very much like this, for 13 years. This works-based salvation is very backwards, and not in line with scriptural truth. Stay in the Word, and cling to its truth.

I have to prove to Him that I am good enough to keep His love lasting with me.

God is love. It's who He is. He loves you all the time.

I would do anything for Him and He can punish me if He wants or when I sin. I'd want Him to cut me, to inflict pain on me because that would be justice. It is what I deserve if I do wrong.

That's not His nature, sis. (Please let me know if you're not a sister.) His purpose and plan for you is good. He has a plan for your freedom and healing.

Jeremiah 29:11-14
[11]For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.
[12]Then shall ye call upon me, and ye shall go and pray unto me, and I will hearken unto you.
[13]And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart.
[14]And I will be found of you, saith the LORD: and I will turn away your captivity, and I will gather you from all the nations, and from all the places whither I have driven you, saith the LORD; and I will bring you again into the place whence I caused you to be carried away captive.

I believe there is something deeper going on here.

 

[rahrah]

Hey All,
@rahah, your OP does not say if you are a young man or a young woman. If you are a young man, it is uncommon for a teen to have a high hairline. But it is not, however, the end of the world different.
If you are a young lady, it's fair to say that it is more uncommon. But, again, I have heard of it before. I know at 15 it seems earth shattering. But like everything else, you will grow into what you will become. Be thankful instead of resentful. There are s lot worse ailments that you could have.

I am a young woman so it makes me really insecure. But as you say, I could have been very ill or something else. I hate how overdramatic I am.

Now listen to me young lady. In the name of Jesus, and with all the love in my heart, stop cutting yourself. It is not acceptable for you to ruin the body God has given you.
You are worried that hair transplants are a sin? Why aren't you worried about the sin you commit when you cut yourself?
What is the golden rule in Scripture?

Matthew 22:37-39 Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.
This is the first and great commandment.
And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.

You are breaking the command by cutting yourself. You have to love yourself. Then you can love others. Deliberate self-destructive behavior is sin. So cutting yourself is a sin. Stop doing this.

It's really hard to stop. Especially because I hate myself a lot of reasons, not only my hair. And it's something I deserve. I hate myself for the things I do wrong. I don't deserve this body, nor do I deserve to live.

If you have to, get rid of all the knives, razors, and whatever else you use to cut yourself. Don't allow yourself to come into contact with a utensil that can be used to cut yourself. Ask your parents to cut your food and tell them why. What parent would refuse that request? Take positive steps to not be around the items that make cutting possible.

Wake up every day and after you thank God for the day, ask Him to lead and guide you through the day. When lunch rolls around, give thanks for your food, and ask again for His continued guidance. Also confess any sin even if you were just thinking about it. Then before you go to bed, thank God for the day, and His guidance. Confess any sin or thoughts of sin you had.
Do you understand why?
Doing this makes you accountable to God throughout the whole day. Once you become accountable, you will begin to act accountable. Your love for God, and yourself, will become more important than the sin you would commit.

I can try, but as I said it's really really hard when I have no motivation and also when I have no one to guide me or to be there with me if I'm having a hard time. Or actually I have one and she's christian. She's 20 so she's only 5 years older than me.

I would still encourage you take any help that is offered. God can use even unbelievers to help you. Accept what they say. If it does not compromise your beliefs, follow it.

I get help from someone, but I really don't feel like it's working. That's why my thoughts are getting worse because it feels like there's no other way out.

I hope this helps.
I just want to reach thru these devices and give you a big old hug. Keep trying.

Thank you for the love and support. I'll keep trying, but I might regret saying this because I don't know if I'll be able to keep it.

James 4:7 Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.

Keep walking everybody.
May God bless,
Taz

 

[Abby-Joy]

That's why my thoughts are getting worse because it feels like there's no other way out.

There is a way out. You have Jesus and He is your way out. I know your circumstances are challenging, but God is able to keep everything that you commit into His hands.

 

[Abby-Joy]

It's really hard to stop. Especially because I hate myself a lot of reasons, not only my hair. And it's something I deserve. I hate myself for the things I do wrong. I don't deserve this body, nor do I deserve to live.

Please ask the Lord Jesus to show you His heart and His truth about these beliefs. Every painful emotion has lie-based thinking at its root and it takes Him to undo it. When you know the truth, freedom comes.

John 8:32
[32]And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.

 

[rahrah]

In principle it's no sin whatsoever. If in the normal course of events one has extra money for it, why not as sooner get a pro to add hair, as a hairdresser/barber to remove hair? I'd advise doing your research first, though, into the pros & cons of different types of hair transplant. There is a general biblical principle of playing our part for good mental peace (eg 1 Cor.7:15). Something similar could be said about physical and spiritual peace/wholeness.

Thank you for giving your opinion on the situation. I really appreciate it.

PS: I have just read the fuller thread. Besides issues of understanding God's love - we are superfluous to him (he needs us not) and precious to him irrespective of what we can offer him - there can be factors such as chemical imbalance at work: https://archive.org/details/masksofmelanchol0000whit. All the best.

It just won't stick to my brain that I can't be good enough. I just want Him to be happy with me and look at me and say "Worthy."

 

[rahrah]

Can you describe the voices, what they say, etc? (Hearing voices is not always a sign of mental illness or chemical imbalance.) Is this something you feel comfortable talking about here? If not, please feel free to PM me.

The voices would call my name like there's many people shouting at me because they're angry. Sometimes it was humming and laughing kind of mockingly. But it has always been a male voice. I've only heard a woman voice once, but it called my name. The voice have said "Begin." "Get over here, I know what you've done." "I don't close my eyes, because I'm dying inside." and "You know you can't do this-" and something else in that sentence that I don't remember.

Sometimes before I hear voices I get this sensation that someone is hovering over my head while I'm lying in bed. With their hand reaching to grab my face. And also a feeling of the color blue. I know this sounds so weird, but it's true. Sometimes I get feeling even without hearing voices before falling asleep. It really feels like someone is standing there so it kind of freaks me out. It feels really cold for some reason. Almost like my body turns cold.

 

[Abby-Joy]

I just want Him to be happy with me and look at me and say "Worthy."

I hope it's okay that I reply to these although you were addressing someone else.

I want to share a little about myself. I am a 51 year old woman (daughter, sister, wife, mother, grandmother). I was born into an extremely abusive and traumatic environment. The first time I tried to die was in the womb, when I as a pre-born infant dis not want to exit the birth canal because of the presence of the epitomy of evil that was present. (God revealed that to me. It was suppressed in my memory and I needed to know what was at the root of my desire not to live.) And at age 5, I consistently tried to die by climbing into my baby brother's toy box with a pillow over my face. I hoped I wouldn't wake up. (How did I learn about boxes and pillows, right? It was part of my previous trauma.) I just want you to know that I can relate. I understand.

I came to Christ at age 13. And life was still very much full of trauma. And I had a lot of self-hatred that was deep-rooted. But the thing that was very key was a revelation of His love for me. He would draw me into His presence and when I came to Him, He just loved me ......lots of hours and hours ...weeks, months, years ....letting Him love me.

That has kept me all these years, through more difficulties and losses, including the fairly recent loss of my youngest son. It is very tempting to fall into a deep pit of thinking .... it's my fault ...I didn't protect him well enough ....I must have done something to deserve it..... on and on, and on. And it's so not easy to resist those thoughts. But I know that when I bring that pain to Him, He speaks His truth and I am freed to heal.

I am rambling, sister. I hope something I've said is useful or helpful. I'll be here off and on. You are not alone.

 

[Abby-Joy]

Sometimes before I hear voices I get this sensation that someone is hovering over my head while I'm lying in bed. With their hand reaching to grab my face. And also a feeling of the color blue. I know this sounds so weird, but it's true. Sometimes I get feeling even without hearing voices before falling asleep. It really feels like someone is standing there so it kind of freaks me out. It feels really cold for some reason. Almost like my body turns cold.

I believe you. None of it sounds weird to me. It sounds like a couple of things going on here. God knows how to unravel it all. (And you're not crazy.)

 

[rahrah]

I hope it's okay that I reply to these although you were addressing someone else.

It's perfectly fine, I'm just grateful that you're actually taking your time to bother and help a person like me.

I want to share a little about myself. I am a 51 year old woman (daughter, sister, wife, mother, grandmother). I was born into an extremely abusive and traumatic environment. The first time I tried to die was in the womb, when I as a pre-born infant dis not want to exit the birth canal because of the presence of the epitomy of evil that was present. (God revealed that to me. It was suppressed in my memory and I needed to know what was at the root of my desire not to live.) And at age 5, I consistently tried to die by climbing into my baby brother's toy box with a pillow over my face. I hoped I wouldn't wake up. (How did I learn about boxes and pillows, right? It was part of my previous trauma.) I just want you to know that I can relate. I understand.

I came to Christ at age 13. And life was still very much full of trauma. And I had a lot of self-hatred that was deep-rooted. But the thing that was very key was a revelation of His love for me. He would draw me into His presence and when I came to Him, He just loved me ......lots of hours and hours ...weeks, months, years ....letting Him love me.

That has kept me all these years, through more difficulties and losses, including the fairly recent loss of my youngest son. It is very tempting to fall into a deep pit of thinking .... it's my fault ...I didn't protect him well enough ....I must have done something to deserve it..... on and on, and on. And it's so not easy to resist those thoughts. But I know that when I bring that pain to Him, He speaks His truth and I am freed to heal.

I'm truly sorry to hear that you've been through all that. And I'm happy to hear that God keeps lifting you up. I hope I'm worth saving because I can truly say that I've called upon Him, begging Him to come and save me, but nothing ever responds.
I hope that there would maybe be a small grain of hope for me to keep living.

I am rambling, sister. I hope something I've said is useful or helpful. I'll be here off and on. You are not alone.

I think it's useful, I just have to get into my brain. (Also to respond to one of your other posts, yes I'm a sis. )

 

[rahrah]

I believe you. None of it sounds weird to me. It sounds like a couple of things going on here. God knows how to unravel it all. (And you're not crazy.)

Thank you for believing me. I myself don't know what's going on and it just leaves me feeling hopeless. I hope that God will someday reach in.

 

[Vinny37]

Thank you for giving your opinion on the situation. I really appreciate it.

It just won't stick to my brain that I can't be good enough. I just want Him to be happy with me and look at me and say "Worthy."

The trick is to see that he'll never say "worthy" to any of us. His love is given to our unworthiness. In Voyage to Venus (C S Lewis), the angels rejoice in being superfluous. We please God by desiring to please him, not by pleasing works or human success.

 

[LovethroughDove]

Thank you for believing me. I myself don't know what's going on and it just leaves me feeling hopeless. I hope that God will someday reach in.

We live in a world where negativity breeds negativity. Reach out for the light and follow the light of the world, which is Jesus. The darkness wants to consume all of us. Meaning, it wants you to hate yourself and hate others.......but LOVE DOES NO HARM! Walk in That means you don't want to harm yourself or others because you want to do what is right! You want to get to the point where you understand that no matter what happens to "you", you will walk in Love.

 

[Abby-Joy]

It just won't stick to my brain that I can't be good enough. I just want Him to be happy with me and look at me and say "Worthy."

It may sound a little silly, but there is a song I used to listen to years ago that has always stuck with me. It's from a southern gospel family called the McKameys. The song came out the year I came to Christ. It is called, "When He Sees Me." I'll share the video as well ...although it may not be your style. The words are so true.

The chorus goes like this:

When He sees me, He sees the blood of the Lamb.
He sees me as worthy, and not as I am.
He views me in garments as white as the snow.
For the Lamb of God is worthy, and He washed me - this, I know!

 

[Abby-Joy]

The trick is to see that he'll never say "worthy" to any of us. His love is given to our unworthiness. In Voyage to Venus (C S Lewis), the angels rejoice in being superfluous. We please God by desiring to please him, not by pleasing works or human success.

This is true. What pleases God is faith. The only "work" that will save us is believing on Jesus Christ.

rahrah

John 6:28-29
[28]Then said they unto him, What shall we do, that we might work the works of God?
[29]Jesus answered and said unto them, This is the work of God, that ye believe on him whom he hath sent.

Remember what I shared in a previous post about getting deeply rooted in God's love? How about make that a daily prayer, that God will do a deep work in your heart and reveal His love to you, and help you to live and walk in His love.

These are the two places to focus ... believe on Christ, that He is the Son of God, and He overcame sin, death, and hell on our behalf, that He rose on the third day and is seated at the right hand of the Father ever making intercession for us. (Think about that....He is our Mediator, interceding for us continually!) The second is love. Love God, and love others (as yourself). That's it. The works of the law will never save you. Just believe and love.

 

[Christ_empowered]

I’d say….
Cosmetic surgery is not inherently sinful but it can drive further self absorption. Hair transplant procedures are not risk free so that’s another issue.

 

[Tenchi]

Okay so my question is just as the title says. Is it sinful to get a hair transplant?

It might be a bit vain, but if it is, talk to God about why baldness is an issue. Give Him constant control of your mind, heart and desires and let Him lead you in the way you should go.

I think I've had a problem with my hairline ever since I was born. All my sisters have strong healthy hairlines meanwhile mine sits high and my hair is fairly thin on the scalp, but thick and beautiful at the ends. I have quite thick hair, but on the top of my hair it's thin, kind of see through and it makes me so insecure.

Oh? Why? Is God limited by your hairline? Is His use of you for His purposes confined by how much hair there is on the top of your head? Does God love you less because you aren't totally thick and lustrous, hair-wise?

I've tried to fight this insecurity, but it left me feeling suicidal and I've started cutting myself a lot.

Uh, what? How is cutting yourself an appropriate response to thinning hair and a receding hairline? Come on, now. Really?

You know, whenever we get preoccupied with ourselves, with our flesh, this sort of destructive stuff always develops. Just like God says in His word it will.

Galatians 6:7-8
7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatever a man sows, that shall he also reap.
8 For he who sows to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he who sows to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.

Romans 8:5-8
5 For they who are occupied with the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they who are occupied with the Spirit, the things of the Spirit.
6 For to be carnally-minded is death; but to be spiritually-minded is life and peace.
7 Because the carnal mind is at enmity with God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be.
8 So then they who are in the flesh cannot please God.

Galatians 5:16-17
16 But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.
17 For the desires of the flesh are against the Spirit, and the desires of the Spirit are against the flesh, for these are opposed to each other, to keep you from doing the things you want to do.

It is a fleshly-minded person who is fussing over their external, physical appearance to such a degree that it becomes destructive. Such person is not under the Spirit's control and cannot, then, be used of God. The man whose eyes are fixed upon himself can't see God.

Some may think I'll do this for vanity, but I can clearly say that I'm not a person of pride.

Well, this obviously is not the case. If pride were not in the mix, you would not be so distressed about your hair. It is your self-interested, self-centered "old man" who is sitting on the throne of your heart, not God. And his rule is always characterized by selfish things, pride chief among them.

In fact I hate the sin pride. All glory belongs to God so It makes my skin boil to think that someone would think of themselves highly, and them only.

Godly humility does not grow enraged by the vanity of others. Is it really that you are angry on God's behalf, or your own? There is nothing a proud person hates more, after all, than being looked down upon.

I really want to create music for God, but I cannot think about standing on a stage in front of many people with them seeing the state of my hair because it makes me insecure.

Then you're in no position to be making music for God. Your focus is on you, not Him. And so long as it is, you're of little use to God. When God's your focus, when He fills your view, your physical appearance won't matter to you as it does now and such liberty from self-interest is vital to proper worship and praise of God.

I really just want to be able to be okay with myself and put my focus on God, but this have really made it impossible to live my life.

You've got things in the wrong order, here. Put your focus on God first, let Him overtake and rule your heart and mind, and then you will find that you're okay with the way He has made you.

I'm thinking about trying out rosemary oil by a brand called nature spell, and I truly hope that it will do the work. But if it won't then I'm contemplating getting a hair transplant. But as you see I have this concern that it is sinful.

Well, it is vain and speaks to a level of occupation with yourself that will only interfere with serving God in a way that pleases Him. We don't have to go about like an unmade bed; being godly doesn't mean you like you've been dumpster-diving; but if you're clean and neat, your teeth are brushed and your hair is combed, you've given enough attention to your appearance.

Even if my thoughts are bad, but I know that it is a sin to commit suicide so I've turned to cutting myself. I've even carved a big cross on my sternum.

Obviously, this sort of thing is not of God. He is certainly not pleased that you're damaging yourself over this hair stuff. Your degree of bondage to your appearance, though, just speaks to the fact that God, that the Holy Spirit more precisely, is not in constant control of you. And he isn't, because you're not being careful to consciously, explicitly, give him control of your mind, desires and conduct throughout each day. When God is control of you, He will not be leading you to self-destructive acts and He will free you of your preoccupation with your appearance.