PrimFinallyFoundGod!
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Some of you guys might remember when I made a post about having same-sex attraction and navigating beginner Christianity. It kinda blew up on the site and I had some great healthy discussions with many of you!
It's been quite a while now. I've grown in my faith considerably and continue to. It has recently occurred to me that the same-sex attraction has become weaker & I appreciate my fiance's masculinity when I previously blanked it due to having attraction to femininity.
I do still find women attractive but when I have those thoughts basically I remind myself I am committed to my fiance and said attraction is unnatural anyway. I manually change the attraction from romantic/lust into simply an appreciation of beauty much like a straight woman feels when she sees a fellow woman and thinks she is beautiful. (If I make sense.)
It's been getting a lot easier over time. I've also completely stopped engaging with pornography and self-serving activity which I'm mentioning because I believe that change has contributed to my same-sex attraction being weaker.
I just felt I'd be a hypocrite not to post this as my initial post was an honest open account of what life is like when you're a Christian but you have same-sex attraction, and this is an important follow-up as I feel we as a community can learn from honest experiences and not just people's assumptions pushed on us by media.
I don't feel empty, deprived or miserable. I feel more peaceful actually. And closer to my partner.
The mainstream understanding is that sexuality is totally fixed and can not change, and any attempt to change it is dangerous and causes misery. I can't go with a narrative if I'm not living that narrative anymore.
Could this be an act of God? Or is it more about me turning away from sin and having my priorities in life be more God-orientated? Perhaps it is both! I think it is interesting to theorize.
I'd love to answer any questions you have about the topic! I'm here to be 100% honest as I feel this is how we can help the community understand the issue better, whether you are a Christian with same-sex attractions or on the flip side a firm straight Christian who has questions.
It's been quite a while now. I've grown in my faith considerably and continue to. It has recently occurred to me that the same-sex attraction has become weaker & I appreciate my fiance's masculinity when I previously blanked it due to having attraction to femininity.
I do still find women attractive but when I have those thoughts basically I remind myself I am committed to my fiance and said attraction is unnatural anyway. I manually change the attraction from romantic/lust into simply an appreciation of beauty much like a straight woman feels when she sees a fellow woman and thinks she is beautiful. (If I make sense.)
It's been getting a lot easier over time. I've also completely stopped engaging with pornography and self-serving activity which I'm mentioning because I believe that change has contributed to my same-sex attraction being weaker.
I just felt I'd be a hypocrite not to post this as my initial post was an honest open account of what life is like when you're a Christian but you have same-sex attraction, and this is an important follow-up as I feel we as a community can learn from honest experiences and not just people's assumptions pushed on us by media.
I don't feel empty, deprived or miserable. I feel more peaceful actually. And closer to my partner.
The mainstream understanding is that sexuality is totally fixed and can not change, and any attempt to change it is dangerous and causes misery. I can't go with a narrative if I'm not living that narrative anymore.
Could this be an act of God? Or is it more about me turning away from sin and having my priorities in life be more God-orientated? Perhaps it is both! I think it is interesting to theorize.
I'd love to answer any questions you have about the topic! I'm here to be 100% honest as I feel this is how we can help the community understand the issue better, whether you are a Christian with same-sex attractions or on the flip side a firm straight Christian who has questions.